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Fighting infertility, growing in faith, and enjoying life through food, wine, and travel

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Welcome to Unexpected Realities!

I’m so glad you’re here!

Unexpected Realities was created in 2003 and was relaunched in April 2016 as a platform to share about our infertility struggles and encourage others who are in the same wait. If you have been looking a place to feel understood and that you are not alone, you have found the right corner of the internet. If you have been bitten by the travel bug like us, you will also find musings about all of the amazing places we have been to as a family as we seek to guide and inspire fellow travel addicts! My husband and I have both discovered a passion for cooking and learning about the typography and craft of winemaking. So if you like traveling, cooking, and wine, this is also a place for you! Our daughter was unexpectedly born with Down Syndrome, so you can find some insight into life with a special needs child as well! I think it’s safe to say there’s a little bit of something for everyone here.

For more information on what you can expect to find on the blog, read below! Want to know why I chose “Unexpected Realities” and the history of the site? Head over to the Domain section.  

Infertility journey

My husband and I began TTC (trying to conceive, for you non-infertility-lingo folks) in the spring of 2013. We did multiple diagnostic tests between the end of 2014 and 2015 and were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. In November of 2015, we did our first IUI cycle, which ended in an early miscarriage. The next four cycles in December 2015, January, October, and November 2016 were negative. In June 2017 I was diagnosed with endometriosis and underwent surgery to remove it. On September 4, 2017, we received an answer to our prayers with a positive pregnancy test! Our miracle daughter was born in May 2018. We would like to have more children, but will have to wait and see what God has planned.

Traveling

Our travel-bug was first sparked when we went to the Costa del Sol in southern Spain and Gibraltar for our honeymoon in October 2009. After that, we knew that traveling would be a priority for us. In November 2011 we went to Cancun, Mexico; in August 2012 we traveled to Budapest and Vienna; in August 2013 we went to northern Italy, including Verona, Vicenza, Venice, Milan, Florence, and Montepulciano; in July 2014 we went to Thessaloniki and Sarti, Greece; in August 2015 we traveled to Portugal with friends to Porto, Nazare, and Lisbon; in May of 2016 we celebrated my husband graduating from his master’s by going to the Mosel Valley in Germany, Reims and Paris in France, and a stopover in Reykjavik, Iceland; in December 2016 we went to Avignon and the Provence region in France for Christmas; in August 2017 we went to Bled and Ljubljana, Slovenia, Rovinj, Croatia, and Fruili-Venezia Guilia, Italy; in January of 2018 we went to Barcelona and Catalonia in Spain for our babymoon; and in October of 2018 we traveled back to Ljubljana, Slovenia and some of our favorite spots from our previous trip. This doesn’t include our domestic travel that we have done together, including Sonoma County, San Francisco, Sacramento, and San Diego, CA, Denver, Boulder, and Colorado Springs, CO area, Nashville, TN, and Naples, FL and southern FL/Miami, and the travel that we have done separately. You can check out the Travel section to see the destinations I have already written about!

We are open to all types of destinations, but our travel philosophy is generally 1) finding the best deal, and 2) locations known for great food and wine. We absolutely love Rick Steves and follow his guidebooks for most of our European destinations.

Have suggestions for where we should go next? Message me on Facebook or Instagram!

Food and Wine

One of our passions that we share together is good food and wine. Our traveling has given us an appreciation for international food, which has translated into our cooking done at home. It has also led to discovering new grape varietals and wanting to learn more about how grapes are used and grown. Locally, the Virginia wine scene has become progressively better over the last five years, and we love to visit new establishments and discover what winemakers are accomplishing as the wine industry grows.

Vaison-la-Romaine, Provence, France – December 2016

More About Us

I’m a 30-something who lives in Northern Virginia with my husband and our miracle daughter. We met in college and were married in October 2009. My passions are cooking, traveling and discovering new places, food and wine, Washington Nationals baseball, and sanctity of life issues. More than anything, we have desired to blessed with a family. But that process hasn’t been easy for us or gone the way we planned, and we have learned to trust God during a difficult time of waiting. God has given me a heart for other couples who have to walk this same road, and is helping us to praise Him even in this unexpected reality.

Welcome!


I'm Jennifer, a foodie and wino that's learning to cook healthy(ier). Waiting with hope in God's timing for building our family, and supporting others who have to walk the same road of infertility. My husband and I can't stop/won't stop planning trips and traveling to new places. Thanks for joining me on my adventures! Read More…

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Today is World Down Syndrome Day and the day we ce Today is World Down Syndrome Day and the day we celebrate our amazing Dayna and all of our friends with an extra chromie!

We hope you will celebrate with us by wearing your most colorful or mismatched socks today, blue and yellow, or both!

If only everyone could be as lucky as we are to have Dayna in their life. She is a shining joy and makes every day an adventure. We will continue to advocate and educate so that everyone can see the wonder that is an extra chromosome!

💙💛 Happy World Down Syndrome Day! 💙💛

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If you haven't seen my stories, we moved from VA to CO last month! In my very short time living in Colorado as an East Coast native, here are some differences and things I have noticed:

1. Almost no one speeds. If the speed limit is 35, you better believe no one is going above 33. In general people seem to be at a slightly slower pace of life. It's going to take a while for my tendency for DC-area-road-rage to settle down 😆

2. We have a pattern apparently - I went from living in LoCo (Loudoun County) to NoCo (Northern Colorado.)

3. Moms are totally fine with their kids running around in t-shirts and barefoot in 30 degree weather.

4. It seems weird that when people refer to "UNC" they are talking about University of Northern Colorado and not University of North Carolina.

5. People are more friendly and are more likely to stop and talk to you, compliment you, or make a positive comment about your kids.

6. We knew this before we moved, but - there really is absolutely no drinkable local wine here whatsoever. 😩 We miss the Virginia winery scene a lot! But it does give us another excuse to go visit our friends on the other side of CO near Palisade (the wine is really good over in the Grand Valley!)

7. The sun really is as nice as they say! ☀️

Stay tuned for Pt. 2!

#colorado #northerncolorado #coloradolife #eastcoasttowest #reelgood #reels #livingoutdoors
Grape stomping: not as messy as you would think 😄

The kids had so much fun for this year's Crushed It at Star in the Valley last month! I was worried that we would all have purple legs for family photos the next day, but even the kids went surprisingly unscathed. Just another reason we love venturing out for day trips a few times a year to this absolute gem of a winery in Strasburg, VA.

Here's to another year of great wine from @starinthevalley !

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Hopping on here to say Happy Down Syndrome Awarene Hopping on here to say Happy Down Syndrome Awareness Month!

And happy hump day 🙃 Even when she's annoyed with me, she's still ridiculously cute!
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Chateauneuf du Pape on a Thursday 🍷 Continued Chateauneuf du Pape on a Thursday 🍷

Continued the hubby birthday celebrations by decanting one of our prized wines we brought back from our trip to the Rhone Valley in 2016. Went perfectly with the Azerbaijan chicken with prunes and walnuts made by @weitzandbites 😋

📷 @roger.sabon 2014 Chateauneuf du Pape Reserve

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Over here dancing for food, don't mind me 😆 We Over here dancing for food, don't mind me 😆

We spent a few days in Venice and Murano last week and found some amazing places! Here's a run down of where we ate and drank to help you choose a memorable spot:

🍴Hostaria Sant'Aponal @hostariasantaponal - probably my overall favorite meal while in Venice! Every dish was delicious and the service was super friendly. Oh and the reviews will not lead you astray, the duck ragu is to die for!!!

🍷Ostaria Vecia Giudeca - had a very serviceable Pinot Grigio and Aperol Spritz with an impeccable view looking across to Venice and right across from the water taxi dock on the island of Giudeca.

🍴Spicy Puppa - go here for the giant seafood platter. One of the best things I have ever consumed. (Which by the way is just listed as the "fish" appetizer 😆)

🍦Gelato di Natura - everyone goes to Suzo. To be fair, we didn't go. But I'd say, skip the line, go a few blocks up and go here instead and have a knockout gelato 🙃

🍷Dolceamaro wine bar - a gem of an establishment in Venice. The lady who runs this place is an angel on earth. Come in to peruse, buy local chocolate and coffee beans, but most of all come for the wine list. The wine available by the glass and bottle is perfectly curated by the owner. Try the Kerner!

🍕Trattoria Dai Fioi - an absolutely perfect pizza restaurant with a leafy courtyard in the Biennale district (which was our favorite part of Venice!)

Trattoria Valmarana - so good, we went by three times! A wonderful restaurant on Murano, from desserts, to pastas, to little mortadella sandwiches. If you're lucky enough to snag one their outside terrace next to the water is decorated with beautiful Murano glass.

More in the comments! Hope you try out some of these recommendations on your next trip to Venice. Where are your favorite local spots?

Travel / Italy / Food recommendations / Venice

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Halloween fun 😆 wish I could have gotten my kid Halloween fun 😆 wish I could have gotten my kids to do the whole theme song but that would have required *patience* 🙃 So you get some excellent flossing instead!

#halloween2025 #blueyfamily #blueyhalloween #homiewithanextrachromie
Got to celebrate our favorite daddy and husband la Got to celebrate our favorite daddy and husband last weekend. 🌻 Grateful for all he does for our family. We watched the Tour de Fat from the window of our brunch restaurant, and had our kids convinced that their dad is such a big deal that the whole party was for him 🥳🎉
Happy (almost) fall 🍁 Working on a video to s Happy (almost) fall 🍁 

Working on a video to share to show some of the amazing places we have gone to the last few months. We have loved Colorado summer and will be sad to see it go! But we are looking forward to the fall colors and all the things that the next season has to offer. 

#fallcolors #fallflowers #tjsflowers #traderjoesfinds #traderjoesflowers #coloradolife #coloradoliving
New glasses, new state, new school! Our Dayna girl New glasses, new state, new school! Our Dayna girl had her first day of full day Kindergarten and she is loving it. This girl is growing up! Although she's been in school since she was 2.5 I will never get over how small she looks getting on a school bus. In her usual Dayna way, she thought to comfort me as she was heading out the door: "It's ok mom, I'll be back at the end of the day." 🥹 You go Dayna, we are so very proud of you!
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Today is World Down Syndrome Day and the day we ce Today is World Down Syndrome Day and the day we celebrate our amazing Dayna and all of our friends with an extra chromie!

We hope you will celebrate with us by wearing your most colorful or mismatched socks today, blue and yellow, or both!

If only everyone could be as lucky as we are to have Dayna in their life. She is a shining joy and makes every day an adventure. We will continue to advocate and educate so that everyone can see the wonder that is an extra chromosome!

💙💛 Happy World Down Syndrome Day! 💙💛

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Here's what I have noticed 👇 If you haven't se Here's what I have noticed 👇

If you haven't seen my stories, we moved from VA to CO last month! In my very short time living in Colorado as an East Coast native, here are some differences and things I have noticed:

1. Almost no one speeds. If the speed limit is 35, you better believe no one is going above 33. In general people seem to be at a slightly slower pace of life. It's going to take a while for my tendency for DC-area-road-rage to settle down 😆

2. We have a pattern apparently - I went from living in LoCo (Loudoun County) to NoCo (Northern Colorado.)

3. Moms are totally fine with their kids running around in t-shirts and barefoot in 30 degree weather.

4. It seems weird that when people refer to "UNC" they are talking about University of Northern Colorado and not University of North Carolina.

5. People are more friendly and are more likely to stop and talk to you, compliment you, or make a positive comment about your kids.

6. We knew this before we moved, but - there really is absolutely no drinkable local wine here whatsoever. 😩 We miss the Virginia winery scene a lot! But it does give us another excuse to go visit our friends on the other side of CO near Palisade (the wine is really good over in the Grand Valley!)

7. The sun really is as nice as they say! ☀️

Stay tuned for Pt. 2!

#colorado #northerncolorado #coloradolife #eastcoasttowest #reelgood #reels #livingoutdoors
Grape stomping: not as messy as you would think 😄

The kids had so much fun for this year's Crushed It at Star in the Valley last month! I was worried that we would all have purple legs for family photos the next day, but even the kids went surprisingly unscathed. Just another reason we love venturing out for day trips a few times a year to this absolute gem of a winery in Strasburg, VA.

Here's to another year of great wine from @starinthevalley !

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#starinthevalley #shenandoah #shenandoahvalley #shenandoahvalleywinetrail #strasburgva #wineharvest #stompinggrapes #crushedit #virginiawinecountry #virginiavine #youcansipwithus #womenwhodrinkwine #wino #vino #winegeek #winelove #wineenthusiast #instawine #winelovers #adventuresinwine #winesofvirginia #vawine #virginiawine #toddlersofinstagram #thehappynow #instagood #instagramreels #reels #reelvideo #reelgood
Hopping on here to say Happy Down Syndrome Awarene Hopping on here to say Happy Down Syndrome Awareness Month!

And happy hump day 🙃 Even when she's annoyed with me, she's still ridiculously cute!
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#downsyndrome #downsyndromeawarenessmonth #upsyndrome #t21love #upgradedto47 #shouttheirworth #dontbesorry #iamable #theluckyfew #extrachromosomeextracute #homiewithanextrachromie #nothingdownaboutit 
#downsyndromeawareness #morealikethandifferent #wouldntchangeathing #instagood #parenthood #parenthoodafterinfertility #lifeisbetterwithyou #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #specialneedsmom #momlife #momsofinstagram #toddlersofinstagram
Chateauneuf du Pape on a Thursday 🍷 Continued Chateauneuf du Pape on a Thursday 🍷

Continued the hubby birthday celebrations by decanting one of our prized wines we brought back from our trip to the Rhone Valley in 2016. Went perfectly with the Azerbaijan chicken with prunes and walnuts made by @weitzandbites 😋

📷 @roger.sabon 2014 Chateauneuf du Pape Reserve

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#rogersabon #chateauneufdupape #rhonevalley #rhonevalleywines #travelforwine #grenache #frenchwine #youcansipwithus #womenwhodrinkwine #wines #wino #vino #winegeek #wineaddict #winelove #winetime #sippingwine #wineenthusiast #instawine #winelovers #adventuresinwine #thehappynow #instagood #winereel #instagramreels #reels #reelvideo #reelgood
Over here dancing for food, don't mind me 😆 We Over here dancing for food, don't mind me 😆

We spent a few days in Venice and Murano last week and found some amazing places! Here's a run down of where we ate and drank to help you choose a memorable spot:

🍴Hostaria Sant'Aponal @hostariasantaponal - probably my overall favorite meal while in Venice! Every dish was delicious and the service was super friendly. Oh and the reviews will not lead you astray, the duck ragu is to die for!!!

🍷Ostaria Vecia Giudeca - had a very serviceable Pinot Grigio and Aperol Spritz with an impeccable view looking across to Venice and right across from the water taxi dock on the island of Giudeca.

🍴Spicy Puppa - go here for the giant seafood platter. One of the best things I have ever consumed. (Which by the way is just listed as the "fish" appetizer 😆)

🍦Gelato di Natura - everyone goes to Suzo. To be fair, we didn't go. But I'd say, skip the line, go a few blocks up and go here instead and have a knockout gelato 🙃

🍷Dolceamaro wine bar - a gem of an establishment in Venice. The lady who runs this place is an angel on earth. Come in to peruse, buy local chocolate and coffee beans, but most of all come for the wine list. The wine available by the glass and bottle is perfectly curated by the owner. Try the Kerner!

🍕Trattoria Dai Fioi - an absolutely perfect pizza restaurant with a leafy courtyard in the Biennale district (which was our favorite part of Venice!)

Trattoria Valmarana - so good, we went by three times! A wonderful restaurant on Murano, from desserts, to pastas, to little mortadella sandwiches. If you're lucky enough to snag one their outside terrace next to the water is decorated with beautiful Murano glass.

More in the comments! Hope you try out some of these recommendations on your next trip to Venice. Where are your favorite local spots?

Travel / Italy / Food recommendations / Venice

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