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Fighting infertility, growing in faith, and enjoying life through food, wine, and travel

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History

I have always had an interest in building websites, even as a kid. I built my first website when I was 13, and took a Photoshop and web design class at my local community college when I was 16. I bought my first domain and personal hosting service and launched Unexpected Realities on September 3, 2003.

The site began as a vehicle to strengthen my HTML code skills, display my Photoshop artwork, and, well…to blog about angsty teenager issues. I took a (small) break of about 6 years from the site when I graduated from college, and revamped it in 2016. I moved the site onto a WordPress platform and am currently using the Divine theme by Restored316 on the Genesis Network.

Why Unexpected Realities?

If I’m honest, I’m not sure why my young 17-year-old self chose Unexpected Realities as my domain name. The name was inspired by Colossians 2:17, which says: “These were a shadow of the things to come…the reality, however, is found in Christ.” But I think I ultimately chose the name because of the sorrow I was experiencing over events occurring in my home life.

I spent less time on it after I went to college, and I stopped working on it altogether after I graduated and got married in 2009, but I wasn’t ready to let it go. In February 2016 we had just had our third infertility treatment, which had once again failed. I began to feel a tug from the Lord to write about the pain of infertility and to help others know that they were not alone. After all, infertility is a harsh reality that no couple thinks will happen to them. Without knowing where it would lead, I relaunched my site in April 2016.

Previous Designs

Want to see what life was like before ready-made templates? Here are some of my site’s pre-Wordpress era layout versions, from circa 2003 – 2008. These were all created by me in Photoshop 7.

V. 18 Amber
Inspiration from the song “Amber” by 311. Stock images from Foto Decadant, Anahita-Stock. Textures from hybrid-genesis.


V. 17 Something Beautiful
Inspiration from the songs “Something Beautiful” and “Show You Love” by Jars of Clay. Stock images from Anahita-Stock. Textures from hybrid-genesis.


V. 16: All I Need
A very springish layout featuring Bethany Dillon and the song “All I Need.” Pictures are from bethanydillon.com and brushes are from Angelic Network.


V. 15: Time Will Never Matter
A layout inspired by the song “Sunny Days” by Jars of Clay . Brushes, patterns, textures and such are from Annika von Holdt and hybrid-genesis.


V. 14: Unforgetful You
Inspired by the song “Unforgetful You” by Jars of Clay. Pictures from Getty Images. Brushes from Sae and textures from TRE-XTURE.


V. 13: Faramir and Eowyn
Eowyn and Faramir in the Houses of Healing, to celebrate the release of Return of the King: Extended Edition. Pictures from Emyn Arnen and Arwen Undomiel. Brushes from Orchidee. Textures from Tere-art and TRE-XTURE.


V. 12: Everything
Inspired by the Lifehouse song “Everything.” Background is from Amalgam, and various brushes are from Orchidee, The Magic Box, The Fifth Muse, and Soar Above the sky.


V. 11: Calvin and Hobbes
Calvin and Hobbes inspired layout. The images were all scanned by me from comic books and the brushes are from 8nero brushes.


V. 10: Hold me Jesus
Inspired Rebecca St. James version of “Hold Me Jesus.” Fonts are DaVinci Forward, Penstylefountain crazy, and Courier. Brushes are from The Magic Box and Komodo Skin. One or two textures are from TRE-XTURE.


V. 9: Eowyn: Two Towers
Credits go to Soar Above the sky,The Fifth Muse,Tere Art,Artificial Sweetness, and The Magic Box.


V. 8: The Tide
This layout is called “The Tide.” It was inspired by two Newsboys songs, “The Tide” and “Father, Blessed Father.” Credits go to getty images and the color box.


V. 7: Arwen’s Vision
This layout is called Arwen’s Vision. In RotK, Arwen is on her way to the Grey Havens when she sees a vision of a child. This child is her son, Eldarion. After the vision, she realizes she must stay with Aragorn because there is hope for her future. Credits go to here, here, and here.


V. 6: White Lady of Rohan
Credits go to here and here.


V. 3: “Love, Liberty, Disco” layout
My first layout created in 2003. Newsboys was my favorite band growing up. Inspired by the “Love, Liberty, Disco” album.

Welcome!


I'm Jennifer, a foodie and wino that's learning to cook healthy(ier). Waiting with hope in God's timing for building our family, and supporting others who have to walk the same road of infertility. My husband and I can't stop/won't stop planning trips and traveling to new places. Thanks for joining me on my adventures! Read More…

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Halloween fun 😆 wish I could have gotten my kid Halloween fun 😆 wish I could have gotten my kids to do the whole theme song but that would have required *patience* 🙃 So you get some excellent flossing instead!

#halloween2025 #blueyfamily #blueyhalloween #homiewithanextrachromie
Got to celebrate our favorite daddy and husband la Got to celebrate our favorite daddy and husband last weekend. 🌻 Grateful for all he does for our family. We watched the Tour de Fat from the window of our brunch restaurant, and had our kids convinced that their dad is such a big deal that the whole party was for him 🥳🎉
Happy (almost) fall 🍁 Working on a video to s Happy (almost) fall 🍁 

Working on a video to share to show some of the amazing places we have gone to the last few months. We have loved Colorado summer and will be sad to see it go! But we are looking forward to the fall colors and all the things that the next season has to offer. 

#fallcolors #fallflowers #tjsflowers #traderjoesfinds #traderjoesflowers #coloradolife #coloradoliving
New glasses, new state, new school! Our Dayna girl New glasses, new state, new school! Our Dayna girl had her first day of full day Kindergarten and she is loving it. This girl is growing up! Although she's been in school since she was 2.5 I will never get over how small she looks getting on a school bus. In her usual Dayna way, she thought to comfort me as she was heading out the door: "It's ok mom, I'll be back at the end of the day." 🥹 You go Dayna, we are so very proud of you!
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Today is World Down Syndrome Day and the day we ce Today is World Down Syndrome Day and the day we celebrate our amazing Dayna and all of our friends with an extra chromie!

We hope you will celebrate with us by wearing your most colorful or mismatched socks today, blue and yellow, or both!

If only everyone could be as lucky as we are to have Dayna in their life. She is a shining joy and makes every day an adventure. We will continue to advocate and educate so that everyone can see the wonder that is an extra chromosome!

💙💛 Happy World Down Syndrome Day! 💙💛

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Here's what I have noticed 👇 If you haven't se Here's what I have noticed 👇

If you haven't seen my stories, we moved from VA to CO last month! In my very short time living in Colorado as an East Coast native, here are some differences and things I have noticed:

1. Almost no one speeds. If the speed limit is 35, you better believe no one is going above 33. In general people seem to be at a slightly slower pace of life. It's going to take a while for my tendency for DC-area-road-rage to settle down 😆

2. We have a pattern apparently - I went from living in LoCo (Loudoun County) to NoCo (Northern Colorado.)

3. Moms are totally fine with their kids running around in t-shirts and barefoot in 30 degree weather.

4. It seems weird that when people refer to "UNC" they are talking about University of Northern Colorado and not University of North Carolina.

5. People are more friendly and are more likely to stop and talk to you, compliment you, or make a positive comment about your kids.

6. We knew this before we moved, but - there really is absolutely no drinkable local wine here whatsoever. 😩 We miss the Virginia winery scene a lot! But it does give us another excuse to go visit our friends on the other side of CO near Palisade (the wine is really good over in the Grand Valley!)

7. The sun really is as nice as they say! ☀️

Stay tuned for Pt. 2!

#colorado #northerncolorado #coloradolife #eastcoasttowest #reelgood #reels #livingoutdoors
Grape stomping: not as messy as you would think 😄

The kids had so much fun for this year's Crushed It at Star in the Valley last month! I was worried that we would all have purple legs for family photos the next day, but even the kids went surprisingly unscathed. Just another reason we love venturing out for day trips a few times a year to this absolute gem of a winery in Strasburg, VA.

Here's to another year of great wine from @starinthevalley !

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Hopping on here to say Happy Down Syndrome Awarene Hopping on here to say Happy Down Syndrome Awareness Month!

And happy hump day 🙃 Even when she's annoyed with me, she's still ridiculously cute!
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#downsyndrome #downsyndromeawarenessmonth #upsyndrome #t21love #upgradedto47 #shouttheirworth #dontbesorry #iamable #theluckyfew #extrachromosomeextracute #homiewithanextrachromie #nothingdownaboutit 
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Chateauneuf du Pape on a Thursday 🍷 Continued Chateauneuf du Pape on a Thursday 🍷

Continued the hubby birthday celebrations by decanting one of our prized wines we brought back from our trip to the Rhone Valley in 2016. Went perfectly with the Azerbaijan chicken with prunes and walnuts made by @weitzandbites 😋

📷 @roger.sabon 2014 Chateauneuf du Pape Reserve

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Over here dancing for food, don't mind me 😆 We Over here dancing for food, don't mind me 😆

We spent a few days in Venice and Murano last week and found some amazing places! Here's a run down of where we ate and drank to help you choose a memorable spot:

🍴Hostaria Sant'Aponal @hostariasantaponal - probably my overall favorite meal while in Venice! Every dish was delicious and the service was super friendly. Oh and the reviews will not lead you astray, the duck ragu is to die for!!!

🍷Ostaria Vecia Giudeca - had a very serviceable Pinot Grigio and Aperol Spritz with an impeccable view looking across to Venice and right across from the water taxi dock on the island of Giudeca.

🍴Spicy Puppa - go here for the giant seafood platter. One of the best things I have ever consumed. (Which by the way is just listed as the "fish" appetizer 😆)

🍦Gelato di Natura - everyone goes to Suzo. To be fair, we didn't go. But I'd say, skip the line, go a few blocks up and go here instead and have a knockout gelato 🙃

🍷Dolceamaro wine bar - a gem of an establishment in Venice. The lady who runs this place is an angel on earth. Come in to peruse, buy local chocolate and coffee beans, but most of all come for the wine list. The wine available by the glass and bottle is perfectly curated by the owner. Try the Kerner!

🍕Trattoria Dai Fioi - an absolutely perfect pizza restaurant with a leafy courtyard in the Biennale district (which was our favorite part of Venice!)

Trattoria Valmarana - so good, we went by three times! A wonderful restaurant on Murano, from desserts, to pastas, to little mortadella sandwiches. If you're lucky enough to snag one their outside terrace next to the water is decorated with beautiful Murano glass.

More in the comments! Hope you try out some of these recommendations on your next trip to Venice. Where are your favorite local spots?

Travel / Italy / Food recommendations / Venice

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Halloween fun 😆 wish I could have gotten my kid Halloween fun 😆 wish I could have gotten my kids to do the whole theme song but that would have required *patience* 🙃 So you get some excellent flossing instead!

#halloween2025 #blueyfamily #blueyhalloween #homiewithanextrachromie
Got to celebrate our favorite daddy and husband la Got to celebrate our favorite daddy and husband last weekend. 🌻 Grateful for all he does for our family. We watched the Tour de Fat from the window of our brunch restaurant, and had our kids convinced that their dad is such a big deal that the whole party was for him 🥳🎉
Happy (almost) fall 🍁 Working on a video to s Happy (almost) fall 🍁 

Working on a video to share to show some of the amazing places we have gone to the last few months. We have loved Colorado summer and will be sad to see it go! But we are looking forward to the fall colors and all the things that the next season has to offer. 

#fallcolors #fallflowers #tjsflowers #traderjoesfinds #traderjoesflowers #coloradolife #coloradoliving
New glasses, new state, new school! Our Dayna girl New glasses, new state, new school! Our Dayna girl had her first day of full day Kindergarten and she is loving it. This girl is growing up! Although she's been in school since she was 2.5 I will never get over how small she looks getting on a school bus. In her usual Dayna way, she thought to comfort me as she was heading out the door: "It's ok mom, I'll be back at the end of the day." 🥹 You go Dayna, we are so very proud of you!
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#downsyndrome #upsyndrome #t21love #upgradedto47 #shouttheirworth #dontbesorry #iamable #theluckyfew #extrachromosomeextracute #homiewithanextrachromie #nothingdownaboutit 
#downsyndromeawareness #morealikethandifferent #wouldntchangeathing #parenthood #lifeisbetterwithyou #motherhoodunplugged #specialneedsmom #momlife #momsofinstagram #toddlersofinstagram #toddlerfashion
Today is World Down Syndrome Day and the day we ce Today is World Down Syndrome Day and the day we celebrate our amazing Dayna and all of our friends with an extra chromie!

We hope you will celebrate with us by wearing your most colorful or mismatched socks today, blue and yellow, or both!

If only everyone could be as lucky as we are to have Dayna in their life. She is a shining joy and makes every day an adventure. We will continue to advocate and educate so that everyone can see the wonder that is an extra chromosome!

💙💛 Happy World Down Syndrome Day! 💙💛

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#worlddownsyndromeday #downsyndrome #upsyndrome #t21love #shouttheirworth #dontbesorry #iamable #theluckyfew #extrachromosomeextracute #upgradedto47 #homiewithanextrachromie #nothingdownaboutit 
#downsyndromeawareness #morealikethandifferent #wouldntchangeathing #parenthood #lifeisbetterwithyou #ontthursdaysweadvocate #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodrising #specialneedsmom #momlife #momandme #momanddaughter #momsofinstagram #reelgood #reels #instagramreels #reel #reelvideo
Here's what I have noticed 👇 If you haven't se Here's what I have noticed 👇

If you haven't seen my stories, we moved from VA to CO last month! In my very short time living in Colorado as an East Coast native, here are some differences and things I have noticed:

1. Almost no one speeds. If the speed limit is 35, you better believe no one is going above 33. In general people seem to be at a slightly slower pace of life. It's going to take a while for my tendency for DC-area-road-rage to settle down 😆

2. We have a pattern apparently - I went from living in LoCo (Loudoun County) to NoCo (Northern Colorado.)

3. Moms are totally fine with their kids running around in t-shirts and barefoot in 30 degree weather.

4. It seems weird that when people refer to "UNC" they are talking about University of Northern Colorado and not University of North Carolina.

5. People are more friendly and are more likely to stop and talk to you, compliment you, or make a positive comment about your kids.

6. We knew this before we moved, but - there really is absolutely no drinkable local wine here whatsoever. 😩 We miss the Virginia winery scene a lot! But it does give us another excuse to go visit our friends on the other side of CO near Palisade (the wine is really good over in the Grand Valley!)

7. The sun really is as nice as they say! ☀️

Stay tuned for Pt. 2!

#colorado #northerncolorado #coloradolife #eastcoasttowest #reelgood #reels #livingoutdoors
Grape stomping: not as messy as you would think 😄

The kids had so much fun for this year's Crushed It at Star in the Valley last month! I was worried that we would all have purple legs for family photos the next day, but even the kids went surprisingly unscathed. Just another reason we love venturing out for day trips a few times a year to this absolute gem of a winery in Strasburg, VA.

Here's to another year of great wine from @starinthevalley !

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#starinthevalley #shenandoah #shenandoahvalley #shenandoahvalleywinetrail #strasburgva #wineharvest #stompinggrapes #crushedit #virginiawinecountry #virginiavine #youcansipwithus #womenwhodrinkwine #wino #vino #winegeek #winelove #wineenthusiast #instawine #winelovers #adventuresinwine #winesofvirginia #vawine #virginiawine #toddlersofinstagram #thehappynow #instagood #instagramreels #reels #reelvideo #reelgood
Hopping on here to say Happy Down Syndrome Awarene Hopping on here to say Happy Down Syndrome Awareness Month!

And happy hump day 🙃 Even when she's annoyed with me, she's still ridiculously cute!
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#downsyndrome #downsyndromeawarenessmonth #upsyndrome #t21love #upgradedto47 #shouttheirworth #dontbesorry #iamable #theluckyfew #extrachromosomeextracute #homiewithanextrachromie #nothingdownaboutit 
#downsyndromeawareness #morealikethandifferent #wouldntchangeathing #instagood #parenthood #parenthoodafterinfertility #lifeisbetterwithyou #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodrising #motherhoodthroughinstagram #specialneedsmom #momlife #momsofinstagram #toddlersofinstagram
Chateauneuf du Pape on a Thursday 🍷 Continued Chateauneuf du Pape on a Thursday 🍷

Continued the hubby birthday celebrations by decanting one of our prized wines we brought back from our trip to the Rhone Valley in 2016. Went perfectly with the Azerbaijan chicken with prunes and walnuts made by @weitzandbites 😋

📷 @roger.sabon 2014 Chateauneuf du Pape Reserve

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#rogersabon #chateauneufdupape #rhonevalley #rhonevalleywines #travelforwine #grenache #frenchwine #youcansipwithus #womenwhodrinkwine #wines #wino #vino #winegeek #wineaddict #winelove #winetime #sippingwine #wineenthusiast #instawine #winelovers #adventuresinwine #thehappynow #instagood #winereel #instagramreels #reels #reelvideo #reelgood
Over here dancing for food, don't mind me 😆 We Over here dancing for food, don't mind me 😆

We spent a few days in Venice and Murano last week and found some amazing places! Here's a run down of where we ate and drank to help you choose a memorable spot:

🍴Hostaria Sant'Aponal @hostariasantaponal - probably my overall favorite meal while in Venice! Every dish was delicious and the service was super friendly. Oh and the reviews will not lead you astray, the duck ragu is to die for!!!

🍷Ostaria Vecia Giudeca - had a very serviceable Pinot Grigio and Aperol Spritz with an impeccable view looking across to Venice and right across from the water taxi dock on the island of Giudeca.

🍴Spicy Puppa - go here for the giant seafood platter. One of the best things I have ever consumed. (Which by the way is just listed as the "fish" appetizer 😆)

🍦Gelato di Natura - everyone goes to Suzo. To be fair, we didn't go. But I'd say, skip the line, go a few blocks up and go here instead and have a knockout gelato 🙃

🍷Dolceamaro wine bar - a gem of an establishment in Venice. The lady who runs this place is an angel on earth. Come in to peruse, buy local chocolate and coffee beans, but most of all come for the wine list. The wine available by the glass and bottle is perfectly curated by the owner. Try the Kerner!

🍕Trattoria Dai Fioi - an absolutely perfect pizza restaurant with a leafy courtyard in the Biennale district (which was our favorite part of Venice!)

Trattoria Valmarana - so good, we went by three times! A wonderful restaurant on Murano, from desserts, to pastas, to little mortadella sandwiches. If you're lucky enough to snag one their outside terrace next to the water is decorated with beautiful Murano glass.

More in the comments! Hope you try out some of these recommendations on your next trip to Venice. Where are your favorite local spots?

Travel / Italy / Food recommendations / Venice

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